How To Cultivate Happiness
By Kamini Wood
Certified Life Coach
The term happiness describes a state of subjective well-being and life satisfaction. It includes positive emotions that may range from contentment to thrill. Being happy means that you are satisfied with where you are in life instead of dwelling on the life you could be living.
Happiness is a great feeling. On an emotional level, we experience joy in different ways – some people get euphoric, some become tearful, while others experience a deep sense of contentment.
Simple activities like talking to a friend, cuddling with your partner, going for a nature walk, or playing with your kids can boost neurotransmitters known as hormones of happiness (serotonin and dopamine), raising your mood when you feel disheartened.
What Causes Happiness?
Our feeling of pleasure is tangled with our thoughts and experiences. It is brought on by significant life events and simple daily pleasures. Our happiness often depends on the people around us, places we go, and things we do.
However, true happiness starts within yourself. To cultivate happiness, you need to turn to yourself and start practicing some simple happy habits.
Mental well-being research shows that living in the moment makes people happier. Studies found that people spend almost half of their time thinking about something other than what they are doing at the moment. This daydreaming makes people less happy, research from Harvard University shows.
Being present in the moment can help reduce stress, alleviate anxiety, and improve your emotional awareness, all of which can lead to increased happiness.
Mindfulness meditation can be an excellent tool to achieve a state of presence. It allows you to pay close attention to whatever you are experiencing in the present moment, with calm acceptance and no judgment.
Mindfulness enables you to recognize negative self-talk and reflect on your inner critic while in a state of deep relaxation. It can help let go of negative emotions, improve your self-respect, boost optimism, and empower you to feel content.
LET GO OF COMPARISON
It seems that, with the expansion of modern technologies, our self-esteem and happiness have gone down the drain. Surveys show that social media promotes feelings of loneliness and unhappiness, self-esteem issues, and depression.
Social media nudges us to compare ourselves with others and seek validation from complete strangers.
However, non-stop connectivity makes it hard to feel happy with your life. The constant need to compare your life with other people’s lives may cause feelings of anxiety, envy, dissatisfaction, and low self-esteem.
To let go of comparison:
Become aware of situations that cause you to compare yourself to others and try to avoid them.
Take a break from mindlessly scrolling social media feeds.
Remind yourself that someone else’s outside appearance does not reflect their inner life and happiness.
Stop using others as a mirror of your own success, happiness, and well-being, but become aware of the values you bring to the table.
Breaking a habit of comparing yourself to others can help let go of jealousy, disconnection, loneliness, and depression.
Research by Dr. Robert Emmons demonstrated that practicing gratitude can considerably increase your happiness and well-being. A daily practice of naming the three things that conjure feelings of gratitude can make you more thankful, improve your mood, raise resilience, and increase optimism.
Being mindful of your blessings is what makes the gratitude practice so powerful. Studies show that gratefulness can rewire your brain to be more sensitive to experiencing gratitude.
Gratitude helps cope with negative emotions, and it can reprogram your subconscious to be more positive and attract abundance.
For many people, loving and being loved equals happiness. However, to attract love, you need to cultivate self-love first. Self-love and self-compassion mean you believe that you are lovable. And another person can complete you only if you complete and accept yourself.
A good, healthy relationship in which you connect on a deeper level and profoundly bond with your partner conjures feelings of contentment and happiness. When you and your partner turn to each other’s bids for connection, your relationship thrives, which boosts satisfaction and happiness.
Similarly, the feeling that your partner and other important people accept and appreciate you for who you provides a sense of pleasure and joy.
LET GO OF PERFECTIONISM
Having a clear idea of where you want to be in life can increase your chances of success and boost life satisfaction. Setting realistic goals and working hard to achieve them is a sign of healthy devotion.
However, perfectionism has its roots in self-esteem issues and anxiety. The awareness that you are not content with yourself can cause unhappiness and dissatisfaction.
Perfectionism pushes you to set unrealistically high standards and expectations for yourself and others, killing your chances for happiness.
If you want to be happy and satisfied with your life, you need to nurture a growth mindset. Adjust your expectations, set reachable goals, and accept that everyone has flaws.
A growth mindset will help you understand that your skills can improve with effort and time. It will empower you to perceive obstacles as chances for growth and continuously work on your personal development.
FORGIVENESS OF SELF AND OTHERS
Forgiveness of self and others is linked to good mental health and well-being. Resentment, anger, and shame drain energy and may cause anxiety, depression, mood disorders, and other mental illnesses.
To cultivate happiness, practice self-compassion and acknowledge that you deserve empathy as much as anyone else. Self-compassion will teach you to let go of self-blame and feelings of guilt, shame, sadness, anger, and other negative emotions that impede your happiness.
Deliberately choosing to self-forgive and forgive means releasing yourself and others out of debt. Making peace with the past can help let go of negative emotions, improve your relationships, move on, and nurture happiness.
ALLOW YOUR EMOTIONS AND MOVE THROUGH THEM
To cultivate joy in your life, learn to allow your emotions and let go of them. Reflect on your emotions and accept them as equally important. But, don’t let negative feelings overwhelm you. After you acknowledge them, mindfully move through them and set yourself free.
Kamini Wood is a life coach specialized in helping adults and teens transform their lives through guidance and support. Kamini works with high achievers struggling with perfectionism, stress, overwhelm and faltering relationships. The founder and CEO of Live Joy Your Way and the AuthenticMe® RiseUp program Kamini walks her clients through a journey of self-discovery helping to guide them towards inner confidence, energy, and empowerment to be themselves both personally and professionally.
Certified as a life coach and specialty trained in parenting, conscious uncoupling, ACT based coaching, and more, Kamini’s coaching style recognizes each teen and adult as individuals with their own experiences, frustrations, and trauma. Her program focuses on recognizing the unproductive aspects of one’s own habits, actions, and inner dialogue and turning them into strengths used to create positive change.
She does this by guiding her clients on a path of self-discovery, where they learn to recognize the false statements in their mind and the self-sabotaging triggers behind their actions. From there she works with her clients to find more positive statements and healthier approaches to life’s stressors.
After working with Kamini through her program teens and adults are transformed in how they view and pursue life. She takes away the guilt, pressure, and self-doubt associated with the need to be perfect and gives her clients the permission they need to relax and enjoy life more. Her clients are re-energized, focused and able to have meaningful, whole relationships.
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